Put it in writing first

Talk through involvement, contact, expenses, screening, method and what the child will be told, and write down what you both agree. The agreement checklist in Resources walks through those questions.

How it works

01
Open the checklist
The agreement checklist is in Resources. Work through it together.
02
Settle each area
Involvement, contact, expenses, screening, method, what the child is told, and the last checks before going ahead.
03
Print your answers
Print what you have both agreed and take it to a lawyer.

Good to know

The questions are prompts for a conversation. They do not tell anyone what to agree, and a completed checklist is not a legal document.
A written agreement shows what you both intended. Whether a court would follow it depends on local law, which is one more reason to get advice.